Twelve: A team player
You don’t have to be an athlete, but you do need to know how to be a team player to be successful in a relationship with me.
A person can learn a lot from participating on a sports team. However, it is not a guarantee that you will be a team player in a relationship. I have known many athletes who can be selfish players and have trouble getting along in relationships because they don’t know how to be part of a two person team.
The flip side of that is that there are people who have not had the benefit of playing organized sports, but still know how to make a positive contribution to the “team”. The experience of playing team sports is great, but it is not the only way to learn how to be part of a team. I can see it from both sides. I learned the value of team play much later in life, and my children are all very active in team sports.
So what does it mean to play on team WSOE (Wide Sea Of Eyes)?
Being on the WSOE team means:
- read my entire blog (just kidding…but seriously, read it)
- treat me as an equal
- respect my opinions
- communicate your own opinions
- being an active participant in the relationship
- be flexible
- be positive
- know how to give and take
- cheer for his team members!
Here are a couple of pictures of one of my little athletes. The first picture was taken when he was just getting started and now he is quite a skater. He is a great sportsman and will one day be a terrific partner to someone. He is one of the fortunate people who is growing up playing a sport he loves, but that is not enough for him to learn the important skills needed to be a part of a relationship team. As his mother/coach/cheerleader, it is my goal that he will learn those skills and be happy in his own future relationships. I am hopeful that this will happen. He has his own personal coach after all!