Of course appearance matters. Of course it does! Why deny it? A guy can be all kinds of fantastic things but if the thought of kissing him makes me think, “Ew” then it is never going to work.
Does that mean I want a guy who looks like one of these guys?
Um…well…sort of, but not really. Their six packs intimidate me. I have a six pack too…but my six pack is in the cooler. Just looking at their pictures makes me want to adjust my shirt as I sit in my comfies snacking and blogging.
I totally accept that at this point in life that my man may have a belly or a bald head…or both. He will have eye crinkles and a few scars from earlier times. His knees make creek and his back many give out now and then. That’s all okay. Honestly! I really mean it!
Sometimes a person can be totally hot just because their personality makes them so. Those people are not very photogenic but there is just something about them that is so darn attractive.
Remember this guy?
Or how about this guy?
Both the above actors have awesome accents which bring on a ton of sex appeal. But they also have an honest to goodness attractiveness that comes across on film when they play likeable characters. I don’t think either of these dudes sport six packs but who the hell cares? They are soooo cute and sexy in live action. I bet they smell good too.
Okay so let’s put Hollywood actors aside. What am I looking for in real life? Here is a brief list:
1. Nice teeth – not perfectly white and straight but clean-looking white and straight, know what I mean? Generally men who take care of their teeth also have good breath which can be a deal maker or breaker.
2. Taller than me – this isn’t asking for much since I am 5′ 5″ but I want to be able to wear heels whenever I feel like being all girly and stuff.
3. Smells amazing – On this one I need to be careful. I have known some really great smelling men who were also what we would call bad boys. Their smell was intoxicating and we all know the bad decisions we make when we are intoxicated. Sheesh.
4. A certain je ne sais quois – he is attractive because there is just something that I can’t put my finger on. Something about his personality, his sense of humour, his friendly, positive, up beat, cool, unique personality that comes across in his facial expressions. I don’t know how to describe it but I sure know it when I see it. Sigh.
So there you have it. It’s a pretty short list. I don’t think I am asking for a lot. I am not looking for Hollywood handsome. I just want someone who is attractive to me.
Now that I am done writing this post for today I think I will go do some sit ups. Seriously.