A wide sea of eyes…

A list of things I want in my next relationship

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Ten: Supportive


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There’s no question about it.  Life can be a challenge.  There are people in our lives who can be difficult and test our patience, our resilience, and our confidence.

I’m not going to say that the world is full of hurtful people or that I run into too many jerks in my life.  That is too negative and I am not about that.  I am just gong to say that there are some people who make life unnecessarily difficult.

I will never understand why they do that, why they create a problem when none existed, why they over react to minor issues or why they feel envious of people who are happy.  Who knows why and quite frankly, who cares?  It is too exhausting to try to get into the heads of some people.  I am just going to say that those people don’t need to be around me.

Go away negative people!  You try to bring others down in order to make yourself feel good.  You don’t have the self-confidence required to be happy in your own life so when you see someone who has it good, you go for the jugular in a futile effort to

bring

them

down.

How misguided is that?  It’s a flawed formula for personal happiness.

Go and find your folk, like-minded cranky pants-es like yourselves and leave me to live in Lanaworld – a world where there is beauty in nature, joy in children, and warmth in connecting with good people over a cold beer, tasty snacks and some good music.

This blog post is about being in a relationship where there is support for one another.  Like it or not, I am going to run into these  toxic people.  Those are the days when I need someone to have my back.  I need him to rally behind me and say, “Hey!  That’s not fair!” and “You didn’t deserve that!” and “No matter what happens, I am here for you.”

“I’ve got your back.”

Powerful words aren’t they?  How lovely to hear them.  It feels so good to have someone to count on.  It feels awesome to be able to give that support in return.  A relationship should create a soft place to land at the end of the day, and at the same time be the rock solid foundation on which you go about your busy days.

It’s important to me to be the kind of person who supports others whenever I can.   I believe you get what you give, so why not give the best gift of all?  Give yourself.

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